Couple Arguments about Social Media Use
by Shana Lebowitz, Business Insider e-magazine (Germany) on Dec. 24, 2017
“Young couples are increasingly fighting about social media use.
Sometimes one partner is more private than the other, or sometimes one partner is concerned that their partner is following an ex on social media.
Yet research also suggests that social media can help bring couples together.
In the days when I was single and dating, I used to do this thing where I’d refuse to tell my friends the name of the guy I was currently seeing. Instead I’d give him code names like, say, “X” or “the doctor.” The logic being, of course, that if I gave him a concrete identity, I’d “jinx” any chance of the romance blossoming into something lasting. Weird, I know. But my general philosophy – even today – is not to spend too much time gushing about how great my life is, as though I’m extending a direct invitation to Disaster. Which is why I’m hard pressed to imagine being in a serious relationship with someone who lives to find the perfect Instagram filter through which to flaunt our comings and goings.
This imagined rift between partners who approach relationships and social media differently is, as it turns out, a very real thing.
I recently spoke to Rachel SUSSMAN, a relationship expert and marriage counselor in New York City, and she cited social media use as a growing source of concern among the couples she sees. The last five years, Sussman said, have brought a big spike in the number of social-media-related proble